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An article by Kris King – Source Online Newsletter Oct 2013 Edition

Do you remember the first time you jumped in puddles? Perhaps watching an older sibling or neighbor kid jump in first and watching their glee at the splashes. Up and down, up and down and then you jumped in! I loved jumping in puddles…not a care in the world, just the experience of water, movement, messiness, overall craziness…and laughter!

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Kris King

I learned to jump in puddles by watching my older brother, Roger, do it. He was an expert and I wanted to be just like him. I was mentored in puddle jumping by someone who loved it. When I look back I see I’ve had many mentors about numerous things—singing, dancing, math problems, science projects, how to dress, how to fit in, even how to walk in heels. At the time I didn’t realize that I was modeling other people, I just knew I wanted to know what they knew. I was curious, insatiable about my world and quite frankly awestruck.

I think most kids are that way…until they are not. Definition of acculturation:  the process by which a human being acquires the culture of a particular society from infancy. Acculturation is a slow and invisible process that shapes us when we don’t know we are being shaped. It also shapes our beliefs, perspectives, judgments, values, assumptions and we think this is reality. Some of this acculturation is great and some not so great. We stop being curious, thinking we know the answers and that we are right about “stuff.” The doorway to awe closes.

Can’t you feel your energy dropping as you read this…depressing. Well, you don’t need to wait for a mid-life crisis or some major life event to shake you up to open the door to awe again.

My mom, Rae, was a life long learner and a wonderful role model for me. She was curious about her world and the people in it until the moment she died at 93. In her last 5 weeks of life, she had two caregivers from Tonga, Veili and Palaiti. They cared for her with such compassion and thoughtfulness. Mom initiated wonderful conversations with them about Tonga, their religion, education, language, their children…you name it, they talked about it. So much laughter rang out from her room. When she died both Veili and Palaiti said that my Mom was the only person they had cared for who learned to say their names correctly, who asked about their lives, who cared enough about them to learn who they were. I call that a life long learner.

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My mom Rae with my son’s Kyle and Mark

I am sure there are people in your life that you know or are aware of that are still awestruck by life. You feel inspired when you are around them or think of them. By modeling these people who excel at something we want to learn and include in our capabilities, we can  effect belief and behavior changes to improve the quality of our lives and how we function. Step into their shoes, get curious about how and what they think, “try them on” and experience their world which will enhance your own.

Open your mind, open your heart, get curious and open the doorway to awe.

With love and gratitude,

Kris King
President
Wings Seminars

6 Comments
  1. Thanks.When feeling stuck I pause and say
    “God restore me to the childlike wonder of life”.
    For me it Stops me in my tracks.
    Back to the awe of life.
    Wings has been part of journey.
    Thank you.

  2. Hi Kris,
    I loved your message. The modeling piece is so big for me. I’ve been modeling your easy playful way of being with a group of people instead of being my introverted self. It is so much more fun to be silly with a classroom full of kids than to try and pretend to be the “one who knows all.” I keep your picture on the wall beside my desk right next to a picture of my 3rd grade self and the two images are great reminders to live, laugh and recognize that we are all beginners. I hope NLP II is full and exciting this weekend. I had really hoped to join you for the second seminar but the timing didn’t work for me. GIve my love to Sherrie and have an awesome Halloween!
    love,
    Debbie Davis Reid

  3. This was an outstanding newsletter, Kris — full of inspiration. thank you!

  4. Lovely. Thanks, Kris!

  5. Thanks for the the reminder. This is paramount in our agency as so many things are changing at a fast pace.

  6. Hi Kris,

    Thank you for the reminder of just how important it is for me to take the time to play, to indulge in my inner child’s need to cut loose and just play.

    Your jumping in the puddle reminded me of when I took integrate back in March, 2013 and I too decided to jump, play and enjoy splashing in the puddles outside Wings building. Very fun and liberating.

    Wings has certainly played a huge part of my awakening, discovering and empowering me with tools to handle my emotions I had no clues as to how to handle them.

    So, thank you for assisting me to learn to empower myself and owning myself.

    Sue

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